There comes a moment in adulthood when you realize you’ve spent years, maybe even decades, being who you needed to be, not who you were meant to be. Responsibilities piled up too early. Life moved fast. The world expected strength before softness, maturity before exploration, composure before comfort.

And somewhere along the way, the younger version of you, the one who loved to color, play, dream, create, and imagine, grew quieter.

For many of us, that quietness wasn’t by choice. We are still nursing pieces of a wounded childhood. A childhood where joy wasn’t always protected, where innocence felt brief, where safety wasn’t guaranteed. Some of us endured moments we never should have had to navigate: the sting of a childhood bully, the weight of an abusive parent, or the ache of feeling unseen or unprotected.

Those memories don’t simply fade because we’ve aged. They follow us into adulthood, showing up in the places where we find ourselves longing for softness, craving creativity, seeking joy, needing playfulness, or simply wanting the freedom to exist without worry. A longing grows and desire calls to reconnect with the part of you that deserved gentleness and that is where inner child healing begins.

What Does It Mean to Heal Your Inner Child?

Your inner child is the emotional part of you that remembers what once made you feel joyful, safe, curious, and loved. She also remembers what was missing; the needs that went unmet, the joys cut short, the times you were asked to be grown long before you were ready.

Healing your inner child means reconnecting with the parts of yourself that never stopped wanting joy, rest, softness, and expression. It means giving yourself the love, freedom, and nurturing you didn’t always receive the first time around. Inner child healing isn’t about going backward. It’s about completing the parts of your story that were left unfinished.

It’s choosing:

*play over pressure
*joy over judgment
*creativity over survival mode
*softness over shame
*curiosity over criticism

It’s choosing to honor your emotional truth instead of suppressing it.

Why Healing the Inner Child Is So Important

For many adults, especially Black women, healing your inner child isn’t just emotional work.
It’s cultural work, spiritual work and generational work. 

Many Black girls were expected to grow up long before they were ready. We were told to be “mature,” “strong,” “helpful,” “quiet,” “well-behaved,” “unbothered,” and “responsible.” We were praised for resilience but rarely allowed softness. We were expected to manage emotions without being taught emotional safety. We were taught to support others without learning how to soothe ourselves. So as adults, we carry both the brilliance and the bruises of those expectations.

Healing the inner child allows us to:

*reclaim softness
*reconnect with joy
*explore creativity without judgment
*feel safe in rest
*let go of perfection
*rewrite unhealthy narratives
*rediscover who we were before the world told us who to be

It’s not ridiculous. It’s not regression. It’s restoration.

It’s choosing to live from a place of fullness instead of emotional scarcity.

How Creativity Supports Inner Child Healing

Creativity is one of the most powerful tools for healing because it connects the adult self and the child self in a gentle, natural way. When you peel a sticker, color a page, decorate your planner, doodle on a notepad, or write in your journal, you’re not just creating.

Creativity:

*calms the nervous system
*quiets the mind
*reconnects you to joy
*provides emotional release
*sparks imagination
*offers a break from “performing” adulthood
*nurtures the younger version of yourself

Many adults feel a sense of guilt or embarrassment for wanting cute stickers, pretty stationery, coloring pages, or playful designs. But there is nothing childish about wanting joy. There is nothing immature about wanting beauty. And there is nothing silly about wanting to create.

These small acts are powerful because they remind you that you are allowed to have moments of ease and delight.

How Create Lavender Supports Your Inner Child Healing Journey

Every product at Create Lavender is designed with intention to give you space to breathe, to play, to express yourself, and to reconnect with parts of yourself you might have tucked away.

Not because you’re “being childish,” but because you’re being whole.

Here’s how different items support healing in a gentle, loving way:

Stickers

They bring joy, color, and creativity back into your everyday life. They let you decorate your world with reminders of who you are and who you are becoming.

Explore and Discover Sticker Sheet

Coloring Pages & Activity Books

They give your mind a rest and your heart a place to soften. They make space for calm, focus, and fun without pressure.

With My Thoughts Activity and Coloring Book

Journals & Notepads

They honor your thoughts, dreams, prayers, and intentions. They offer a quiet moment to check in with your emotions and needs.

Be Still and Know Prayer and Study Journal

Planners

They help you build routines that support the adult you, without forgetting to nurture the child within.

100 Days Undated Planner

Every design, whether it’s a gothic-inspired character in deep burgundy, a soft pastel "feeling cute" moment, a pretty raccoon, or a notepad that encourages you to reach for the sky; each celebrates the fact that Black people are not a monolith, and we can heal in our own unique way. We all express joy differently. We all heal differently. We all create differently. And that diversity deserves to be seen fully, beautifully, proudly.

A Final Word

Healing your inner child isn’t about pretending you’re young again. It’s about giving yourself what you needed but didn’t always receive: time, joy, softness, creativity, gentleness, and freedom. It’s about learning to love yourself in a new way. A way that honors both who you were and who you’re becoming.

So pick up the stickers. Color the page. Write in the journal. Decorate your planner.

Because you’re not being childish:
You’re being restored.
You’re being healed.
You’re coming home to yourself.

And you deserve every bit of that joy.